SPIRITUAL GIFTS WE BRING INTO AN INCARNATION

Although there are many things we can learn or develop through life, we tend to bring into an incarnation those abilities we will need to fulfil our role here. Throughout lifetimes we gain a lot of experience that brings many accomplishments and abilities. Additionally, we all have many inherent spiritual abilities. You may be surprised at just how many incredible gifts you have. When we plan an incarnation, we have a sense of how we are going to be contributing and only some abilities are needed to support our direction. So, out of the many, we select only those. This avoids confusion of being able to do so many different things that it makes our path unclear. Abilities are not all obvious at once. Many sit quietly in the background until needed, some may only appear later in life or come suddenly in response to a particular situation. Some may arrive for a short window, serve a specific purpose, and then fade again once that role is complete. Some remain on standby and are never used. We don’t need access to everything at once. If everything were active at the same time, it would be hard to know where to put our energy.

An important point. I often see people overwhelmed, with an exhausted nervous system, stemming from a belief that because they can do something, they have to do it (or teach it). They turn it into a responsibility. But just because we can do something does not mean we have to. Some abilities are for personal awareness, inner development or private understanding or to be used on occasion. Not everything is designed to be shared or offered outwardly, or to build an identity around it or make it a story about who we are. Letting an ability rest can be as important as activating it. If it is right, it is not exhausting. We always know when we are draining ourselves and it often comes from our thinking that because we can, we must!

Abilities are usually recognized quietly. It might be a simple knowing of ‘I can do this.’ We might notice that something feels natural to us and is easy to do, rather than an effort or strain. It is easy for us to look at others abilities and judge ourselves for not having that. But each of us arrived with what we needed to complete our own work. Others arrived with what they needed for theirs. When we trust our inner feeling and follow it, life runs smoother.

An ability may also exist for one specific meeting, moment, or be a turning point. Some ways an ability can act as a turning point. 1. A turning point might be a single conversation where you suddenly say the one true thing you’ve been avoiding, and it quietly changes the direction of a relationship, even if nothing dramatic happens on the surface. 2. It can be a moment when you stay calm in the middle of chaos, not because you practiced it, but because something in you knew how to hold the space, and that steadiness allowed someone else to settle or make a different choice. 3. It might be a time when you speak up once, clearly and kindly, after years of staying silent, and that one moment reshapes how you see yourself, even if you never need that same voice again. 4. It can also be internal. A moment of deep understanding, forgiveness, or release that happens quietly, without witnesses, but after which you are no longer carrying the same weight.

And when a role or ability completes, stepping back creates space for the next phase to emerge. Letting go is how we stay available for new roles, new learning, and new adventures.

Love,

Sandy Stevenson

20.12.25