DOES IT MATTER
When we feel pushed into making a decision, how often do we agree to
something that doesn’t feel right, simply to avoid disappointing
someone, causing an upset, an argument, or dealing with an awkward
conversation. Even when we know it isn’t right, doesn’t interest us,
doesn’t excite us, and already feels heavy just thinking about it. We
convince ourselves it doesn’t really matter, because it’s only a few
minutes, a few hours, days, weeks, or months. Perhaps even ‘It’s just a
few years’, when it involves moving, changing jobs, or living somewhere
else.
Our intuition is often clear and immediate in giving us a yes or a no.
Maybe if we haven’t trusted it for a long time, it might be buried but
it’s still there if we really look.
We accept the dinner invitation, agree to the weekly visit, attend the
party, read the book everyone says is a must, take the vitamins that
promise to fix everything, see the practitioner, join the group, go to
the lecture, celebrate the birthday, accept the job, enroll in the
course, buy the car, get the pet for the kids, attend the school play,
go for drinks after work, live in that town, or say yes to the concert
or event.
We say yes
because our mind, ego, or emotions step in with convincing reasons.
We are convinced
it does not matter. It can’t hurt. It’s not for long. It is better than
disappointing someone, better than rocking the boat, better than dealing
with the discomfort, so we override what we know
Many of our decisions are made from personality reactions. Maybe it’s
fear, or resistance, or a dislike of effort, responsibility, or
inconvenience. Sometimes we let that squash what is actually meant for
us. This is where we need to be willing to set aside the ego
personality, at least enough to listen. Intuition has a sense of
rightness, a calm inner knowing that points the way, even when the
personality protests.
Which brings us to the question of whether it really matters when we
override our instinct. Where were we really meant to be during the
period we chose to redirect our life?
There is a natural flow of divine order moving through life. It directs
us, moment by moment, toward what supports our highest good. Perhaps
it’s part of a deeper intelligence that has always guided survival.
Maybe the choices we make don’t just affect our own path, or even the
people close to us, but ripple much further out than we realise. There
is a saying that may be truer than we think, pick a rose and a star
trembles. We are taught to see ourselves as separate individuals making
private choices, but there is a wider field at work where everything is
connected. The same rhythm that moves the oceans, forests, seasons, and
stars also moves through us. William Blake hinted at this when he spoke
of seeing a world in a grain of sand, and heaven in a wild flower. The
ordinary becomes a doorway when we are present enough to notice.
We get signs to show us we have stepped outside that flow. We may feel
tired or exhausted for no clear reason. We may feel resentment toward
situations where we believed we were being kind or reasonable, such as
caring for a sick relative or getting the neighbours shopping every
week. Another sign is the creation of repeated lessons. When we ignore
our own knowing, the same situation tends to return in a slightly
different form, again and again, until we finally listen.
When we move with the flow, we move in alignment with the source of life
itself. Perhaps overriding our inner knowing matters a great deal more
than we’ve been led to believe.
Perhaps somewhere, stars do tremble when we pick a rose.
Love,
Sandy Stevenson
6.2.26